Develop mature behaviors


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Develop your interests. The lack of dynamic or developed interests or pastimes could contribute to an immature appearance. Finding something that you enjoy doing and becoming an "expert" in that can give you the appearance of someone more experienced and mature. Likewise, it will also give you something to talk about with others, regardless of whether or not they also participate in your hobby.
·         Try to make your hobbies active and productive. It is very fun to watch a marathon of a television program, but it is not necessarily the best way to spend your time.This does not mean that you can not enjoy movies, TV shows and video games, but that they should not be the only thing you spend your time on.

·         Hobbies can improve your self-esteem and increase your creativity. These can also stimulate the parts of your brain that make you feel positive and happy. [3]
·         Basically there are no limits to the types of things you can do! Get a camera and learn photography, learn to play a musical instrument, practice a new language, learn to beatbox or create a group for a live role-playing game. Just make sure that what you choose is something you enjoy doing; otherwise, it will become a task instead of a hobby.

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Set goals and strive to achieve them. Part of being mature is being able to assess your current strengths, determine what areas need improvement and set goals for the future. Keep the future in mind and let it influence appropriately the decisions you make for your life. After setting clear, feasible and measurable goals, adopt measures to achieve them.
·         Setting goals can seem overwhelming, but do not worry! This only requires a little time and planning. Start by determining what you want to improve. For example, maybe you want to start improving your resume for college. This is the basis of your goals.
·         First you have to think about some categories: who, what, when, where, how and why.
·         Who. This consists of who will be involved in the process of reaching your goals.Evidently, here you are the main person; however, this category could also include a tutor, a volunteer coordinator or a counselor.
·         What. What do you want to achieve? In this step it is important to be as specific as possible. "Preparing for college" is too broad. You will never start with such a big and ambiguous goal like that. Instead, choose some specific goals that will help you achieve that greater goal, such as "doing a volunteer activity" and "participating in an extracurricular activity."
·         When. This helps you know when specific parts of your plan should be done.Knowing it will help you stay on track. For example, if you want to volunteer, you have to know if there is a deadline to apply, when the activities will take place and when you can do them.
·         Where. It is often helpful to identify where you will work to achieve this goal. In the example of volunteer work, you could choose to work in a shelter for animals.
·         How. In this step you must identify how you will accomplish each stage of your goal. For example, what is the process you must do to communicate with the shelter to do volunteer work? How will you get to the shelter? How will you balance volunteer work with your other responsibilities? You have to think about the answers for these types of questions.
·         Why. Believe it or not, this is probably the most important part. You are more likely to achieve a goal if it matters to you and you can contemplate how it fits into a "general perspective". [5] Determine why this goal is important. For example, "I want to volunteer at the animal shelter to make my curriculum more attractive to college pre-university programs."
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Determine the most appropriate time to be fun. You do not have to be serious all the time to look like someone mature. True maturity is knowing your audience and determining when it is appropriate to be fun and when it is important to be serious. It is good to have different levels of fun to be able to modify your actions in an appropriate way.[6]
·         Try to reserve a part of the day just to have fun. You need time to let off steam and have fun. Take a short time every day (eg, after school) to indulge yourself in crazy pranks.
·         Keep in mind that fun is often inappropriate in formal situations, such as school, church, work and particularly funerals. You must pay attention, do not joke with people. Being funny in these situations usually communicates immaturity.
·         However, informal situations such as dating with your friends or even the time you spend with your family can be great times to be fun. This can even help them form a bond.
·         Set some parameters for times when you can and can not tell a joke or be fun. Do not use humor or cruel or denigrating jokes.
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Be respectful to others. We all have to live together in the world. If you do things intentionally to annoy others or if you do what you want without taking into account the feelings of others, people may consider you immature. Remembering the needs and desires of the people around you will help you cultivate a reputation as a mature and respectful person.
·         Being respectful of others does not mean you should let them trample you, but rather that you should listen to them and treat them the way you would like them to treat you. If the other person is rude or disagreeable to you, do not respond in the same way. Show that you are a better person by going away.

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Choose mature friends. Your friends will influence your behavior. Make sure you relate to people who make you someone better, instead of spending time with those who demoralize you.
Method2
Develop an emotional maturity
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Do not be a bully. The behavior of bullies usually arises from a sense of insecurity or low self-esteem. This can be a way in which people test their power and ratify it on others. Harassment is bad for the victims and the people who harass them. [7] If you perceive that you are showing harassing behavior, talk to someone you trust (such as a parent or a school counselor) to tell you how to stop.
·         Bullying has three basic types of harassment: verbal, social and physical. [8]
·         Verbal harassment consists of actions such as nicknames, threatening others or making inappropriate comments. While words do not cause physical harm, they can cause deep emotional hurt. Be careful what you say and do not tell others what you would not like to be told.
·         Social harassment involves damaging the reputation or social relationships of a person. Avoiding others, spreading rumors, humiliating them and telling gossip are types of social harassment.
·         Physical harassment involves hurting someone (or damaging their belongings). All physical violence, as well as taking or destroying someone's belongings or making rude gestures are forms of physical harassment.
·         Also, do not let harassment happen when you are around. While you do not have to physically get involved with a stalker (indeed, that could be very dangerous), there are many ways in which you can help create a harassment-free environment.Do the following: [9]
·         set a good example by not harassing others;
·         tell stalkers that their behavior is not fun or great;
·         be good to the victims of harassment;
·         tell responsible adults about bullying
·         If you feel you have a problem with bullying, consider talking to a counselor or therapist. You may have some more complex problems that make you feel like you have to denigrate or annoy others. A counselor can give you methods with which you can develop more positive relationships.

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Avoid gossip, rumors and talk about others behind your back. Telling gossip, spreading rumors and talking behind your back can hurt people just like a punch in the face, maybe more. [10] Even if you have not counted a gossip with malicious intent, it can still hurt you. Mature people care about the needs and feelings of others, and do not do things that could hurt them.
·         Telling gossip will not necessarily make you great or popular either. Studies have shown that gossiping can make you look great when you're in fifth grade, but in high school (a stage when you'll be more mature), gossips are often considered less pleasant and less popular. [eleven]
·         Do not encourage gossip either. If someone tries to start a gossip when you're around, reproach him. Research shows that when even one person says "Hey, telling gossip about other people does not seem right", this can make a difference.[12]
·         Sometimes, you could say something good about someone and people might come to interpret it as gossip. For example, you may have told a friend, "I really like going out with Ziyi, it's fun!" And someone else could tell someone else that you said something cruel. You can not control the way other people interpret or respond to what you say. The only thing you can control is what you say and do.Make sure your words are kind. [13]
·         A good test to determine if something is a gossip or a rumor is to ask yourself: Would you want other people to hear or hear that from me? If the answer is no, do not share it with others. [14]
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Be a better person if someone is unpleasant with you. If you can ignore it, do not answer; Your silence will communicate that what the person said was wrong. If you can not ignore it, simply tell the person that your comment was rude. If the person apologizes, excuse her; If you do not, just walk away.

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Keep an open mind . Mature people have an open mind. The simple fact that you have never heard or done anything does not mean that you should reject it or discard it. Instead, I veil it as an opportunity to learn something new and different (or meet someone new). [15] [16]
·         If someone has a different belief or habit than yours, do not judge them immediately. Instead, ask open-ended questions such as "Could you tell me more about it?" Or "Why do you do it?"
·         Try to listen more than you talk, at least at the beginning. Do not interrupt people or say "But I think that ...", let them talk. You will be surprised what you can learn.
·         Ask for clarification of what you have not understood. If someone says or does something that does not seem right, ask for clarification before judging it immediately. For example, if you think someone has insulted your beliefs, breathe deeply and then say something like "I heard you said _______. Is that what you wanted to say? " If the other person tells you that was not their intention, accept it.
·         Do not expect the worst of people. Address situations taking into account that all are human beings, just like you. They probably do not try to be cruel or hurtful, but they could also make mistakes. Learning to accept people as they are will help you to be more mature.
·         Sometimes, you can not agree with another person, that's fine. Sometimes, you just have to agree or disagree, this is part of being mature.

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Have confidence in yourself . Do not apologize for the peculiarities or oddities you may have, even if the others do not approve. You should feel free to express your individuality as long as your behaviors are not antisocial and do not cause any harm.Mature people do not question or try to be something they are not.
·         Developing hobbies and skills that you are good at is a great way to develop your self-confidence. You will learn that you can achieve what you set and you will have a set of great skills that you can share with others.
·         Be careful with your inner critic. If you notice that you have negative thoughts about yourself, think about whether you would say that to a friend. If you would not tell a friend, why would you tear yourself down? Try to reformulate these negative thoughts to turn them into useful thoughts. [17]
·         For example, you might think "I'm a loser! I'm very bad at math and I'll never be able to improve. " This is not a useful thought and it is definitely not something you would say to a friend.
·         Reform it considering what you can do about it: "I'm not very good at math, but I can work hard. Even if I do not get an A in class, I know I did my best. "

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Be authentic. A characteristic of true maturity is being true to yourself. You can have self-confidence without acting arrogantly or pretentiously. A mature person does not have to criticize others harshly or pretend to be something they do not like. [18]
·         Talk about the things that really interest you. When something matters to you, people can perceive it.
·         When you have negative thoughts about yourself, it may be tempting to overdo it by trying to deny them. For example, if you think "I'm really worried about next week's test," your first reaction might be to pretend that nothing scares you. This is not being yourself. It is more mature to admit that you feel insecure or vulnerable.We all have times when we do not feel safe. This is completely normal.
·         Express your feelings clearly. Walking around or being passive aggressive are not mature or authentic ways of dealing with your feelings. Be courteous and respectful, but do not be afraid to say what you really feel. [19]
·         Do what you think is right. Sometimes, other people might make fun of you or criticize you for it; however, if you follow your principles, you will know that you have been true to yourself. If people do not respect you, you will not want their opinion anyway. [twenty]

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Accept personal responsibility It is likely that the most important part of becoming a more mature person is accepting responsibility for your own words and actions.Remember that things do not happen to you for no reason. You have the power to act in your own life and your words and actions have consequences for you and others. Accept responsibility for your mistakes. Recognize that you can not control what others do, but you can control what you do. [twenty-one]
·         Accept responsibility when things go wrong. For example, if you have scored low in an essay, do not blame the teacher. Think of the actions you have taken to obtain that result. What can you improve next time?
·         Focus less on whether things are fair. Things will not always be fair in life. At times, you may deserve something you have not received. Mature people do not allow injustices to hamper their achievements.
·         Take control of what you can. At times, you may feel that you can not control your life at all. Part of it is true. You can not control the fact that the restaurant manager gives you a job or that the person you like agrees to go out with you. However, there are things you can control. For example:
·         In the workplace, you can refine and revise your resume. You can prepare for the interview as best as possible, dress professionally when you have a job interview, arrive at the time, etc. You could not get the job, but you will have done everything that was under your control.
·         In relationships, you can be respectful, fun and kind. You can be yourself when you are with other people. You can look vulnerable and tell the other person that you would like to have a relationship. These are things that you can control. Even if things do not work, you can be calm because you have remained true to yourself and you have given your best effort.
·         Do not accept failure. Most of the time, people give up because it's easier than trying again. It's much easier to say "I'm a loser" than to say "Well, that method did not work, let's see what else I can do!" Accept responsibility for your decisions and choose to keep trying, no matter what else.
Method3
Communicate as an adult

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Control your temper Anger is a strong emotion, but it can calm down. Do not overreact to small, unimportant things. When you feel that you are getting angry, stop and take 10 seconds to think about your answer before doing or saying something. This will prevent you from doing things that you regret and will help you communicate more maturely. [22]
·         After stopping, ask yourself what is happening. What is the real problem? Why are you angry? You might realize that you are very angry about something that happened two days ago and not about having to clean your room.
·         Think of the possible solutions to the problem. Analyze a couple of ways you could react before choosing one. What would solve what is happening?
·         Consider the consequences. This is the part where many people may hesitate."Doing what I want" is usually the most attractive solution, but will it really solve the problem? Or will it make it worse? Think about what the outcome of each option might be.
·         Choose a solution After considering the possible consequences of each option, choose one that seems the best. Keep in mind that this will not always be the easiest or funniest! This is simply part of becoming more mature.
·         If you have to say something, use a calm tone of voice and provide some reasonable arguments to justify what you feel. If the person just wants to argue and does not want to hear you, get away from the conflict, it's not worth it.
·         When you are angry or about to overreact, breathe deeply and count to 10. You must maintain self-control and not let anger take hold of you.
·         If you have a bad temper, people could enjoy provoking you. When you control your temper, they will lose interest in getting angry and will start to leave you alone.

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Learn assertive communication techniques. When adults want to communicate in a mature way, they use assertive techniques and behaviors. Assertiveness is not the same as a bluff attitude, arrogance or aggression. Assertive people express their own feelings and needs clearly, and listen when others do the same. [23] Arrogant and selfish people do not care about the needs of others and focus on getting what they want when they want it, regardless of whether this causes others unhappiness. Learn to defend yourself without being arrogant or aggressive and you will definitely feel more mature. Here are some ways to communicate assertively: [24] [25]
·         Use first-person phrases Second-person phrases make other people feel blamed and ignored. Keeping focused on what you feel and experience allows a mature and productive communication.
·         For example, instead of telling your parents "Never listen to me!" Try to use a first-person phrase like "I feel like you have not heard my point of view." When you say you "feel" in a certain way, the other person is more likely to want to know the reason.
·         It also recognizes the needs of others. Life is not just about you. Communicating your feelings and needs clearly is great, but also remember to ask others about theirs. Thinking first about others is a true sign of maturity.
·         Do not draw conclusions. If you are not sure of what has happened to someone, ask! Do not judge in advance, remember that you do not have all the information.
·         For example, if your friend has forgotten they were going to make purchases together, do not assume that it is because he does not care or is a terrible person.
·         Instead, use a phrase in the first person and then invite him to express his feelings: "I was very disappointed because you could not go shopping with me. What happened?".
·         Offer to collaborate with others. Instead of saying "I want to go skating", ask others for your opinion: "What would you like to do?"

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Avoid saying rudeness constantly . Many people and cultures expect mature people to communicate without cursing or swearing. Saying rude things can impact other people or even make them feel that you are disrespecting them. Saying profanity can also make other people think that you are incompetent or that you are bad at communicating. [26] Instead of swearing, try to expand your vocabulary . When you learn new words, use them to express yourself.
·         If you say profanity frequently when you are angry or when you have hurt yourself, try to make it a game to create creative exclamations. Instead of swearing when you hit your finger, it's much more fun (and more surprising) to say something creative like "Chocolate Monkeys!"
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Speak courteously and avoid raising your voice. If you raise your voice, especially if you are angry, you are likely to make people uncomfortable. They might even decide to stop listening to you. [27] Shouting is what young children do, not mature adults.
Use a calm and even tone of voice, even if you are angry.

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Observe your body language Your body can say a lot just like your words. For example, crossing your arms in front of you can tell other people that you are not interested in what they say. Stooping bent communicates that in truth you are not "there" or that you want to be somewhere else. Learn what your body communicates and make sure it is what you want to express. [28]
·         Keep your arms relaxed at your sides, instead of crossing them in front of you.
·         Stand up straight with your chest out and your head in a position parallel to the floor.
·         Remember that your face also communicates. Do not look up or stare at the floor.

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Talk to people about mature topics. Among the examples of mature topics are the school, the news, the life experiences and the lessons that life has taught you.Obviously, you can take some time to be fun with your friends. It's all about considering your audience. You probably will not talk about the same issues with your best friend and your math teacher.
·         Make questions. One of the signs of maturity is intellectual curiosity. If all you ever do is talk to someone, you will not look very mature. Give the word to other people.If someone says something interesting, say "Tell me more!"
·         Do not pretend to know something that you really do not know. It can be hard to admit that you do not know something; After all, you want to look mature and informed. However, pretending to know something and discovering that it is not like that could make you look (and feel) like a fool. It is much better to say something like "I have not read much about it. I will have to check it out!".

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Say something nice. If you can not say something positive, do not say anything at all. Immature people criticize things constantly and point out other people's faults, and they will not hesitate to tell you hurtful insults in general. Sometimes, they justify cruelty by saying that they are just "being honest." Mature people choose their words with care and do not hurt the feelings of people just for being "sincere", so remember to be careful what you say and do not say anything that hurts the feelings of others. Treat people in the same way you would want them to treat you.

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Learn to sincerely apologize for your mistakes . No matter how careful you are, from time to time you will say something wrong or you will unintentionally hurt people.Everyone does things you study at times, since no one on this planet is perfect. Learn to swallow your pride and say "I'm sorry". Apologizing sincerely and authentically when you have done something wrong shows true maturity.

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Tell the truth, but be compassionate . This is a very difficult skill to master, but thinking if you want someone to tell you something can help you determine what to say. In Buddhism, there is a saying: "If you intend to speak, always ask yourself is it true? It is necessary? Is it noble? " Consider it before you speak. The people around you will appreciate your sincerity, and your compassion will show that you truly care about others.[29]
·         For example, if a friend asks you if her dress makes her look fat, think about what would be more helpful. Beauty is very subjective; therefore, it is likely that offering an opinion about your appearance is not helpful. However, telling your friend that you appreciate her and that she looks just like her is the reinforcement she needs for her confidence.
·         If you really think that your friend's attire is not attractive, there are subtle ways to say it if you think it will be helpful. For example, if you say "Hey, I like the red dress more than this one", you will not judge your friend's body (nobody needs that), but you will answer the question that it looks great.
·         Behavioral scientists suggest that some types of dishonesty are "prosocial," little lies you say to help others not feel embarrassed or hurt. It is up to you to decide if it is something you want to do. No matter what you decide, do it with kindness. [30]
Method4
Be polite

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Use good manners when interacting with people. Give a firm and steady handshake, and look the person straight in the eyes. If your culture has a different way of greeting, use it appropriately and courteously. When you meet someone, make an effort to remember their name by repeating: "Nice to meet you, Wendy." Good manners communicate that you respect the other person, which is the behavior of a mature person.[31]
·         In every conversation, listen carefully and maintain eye contact. However, do not stare at the other person. Use the 50/70 rule: make eye contact 50% of the time you speak and 70% of the time the other person talks. [32]
·         Avoid moving your hands restlessly or playing with objects at random. Moving your hands restlessly is a sign that indicates a lack of security. Keep your hands open and relaxed.
·         Do not sit down to think about the places you would prefer to be. Most people are very good at perceiving that an interaction does not matter to you and this will hurt their feelings.
·         Do not talk by cell phone or send text messages when you need to pay attention to the person in front of you. This communicates a lack of respect.
·         When you approach a new situation or community, remain calm for a moment and perceive how other people act. It is not your job to tell other people what they should or should not do. Instead, observe and be respectful.

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Show good manners when you communicate over the Internet. Using good manners on the Internet shows that you respect your friends and other people with whom you interact on the Internet. This is a sign of maturity. Keep in mind that much of what you say on the Internet can also be seen by potential employers, teachers, etc., so do not say anything that might embarrass or hurt you. [33]
·         Avoid strong or offensive language. Do not use exclamation marks excessively.Remember that you are not there in person to clarify your point, so make sure you do not overwhelm your audience.
·         Use the shift key.Place capitalization of proper nouns beginning and sentences, INSTEAD OF typing in lowercase. Avoid using uppercase strangely, as what you write Makes esta is much harder to read.
·         Avoid Writing in ALL CAPS. On the Internet, esta Amounts to scream. You can do this if for example you are going to post a tweet Stating what your hockey team just won the championship, but it's not a good notion to do so in everyday emails and publications on social networks. [3. 4]
·         When you send an email, use a greeting (the word "Dear" in "Dear John"). Start an email without one is rude, especially if directed to someone who does not know well or someone like a teacher. It also uses a closing such as "Thank you" or "Sincerely".
·         Check your email before sending it or your posts on social networks before publishing to make sure you have not made a mistake. Use complete and be sure to use proper punctuation at the end of each sentence prayers.
·         Use abbreviations, slang and emoticons moderately. You can use them in a casual message for a friend, but do not use them in an e-mail to your teacher or other situation where you want to look mature.
·         Remember the golden rule in Internet, like the golden rule in real life. Treat others the way you'd want to be treated. If you want a person to be nice to you, be kindto her too. If you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all.

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Behave as a helpful person. Open the door, it helps collect things and offer help to those who need it . Also considered to be helpful in your community, like teaching a younger student to tutor or work in an animal shelter. When you give happiness to others, it is more likely to feel happy with yourself. Serve others rather than just assist you is a very mature behavior.
·         Be helpful can also improve your self - esteem. Studies have shown that when we help others, we develop a sense of accomplishment and pride in what we have done. [35]
·         Be helpful is not always reciprocated. There may be times when you help others and they do not say "thank you " or you repay the aid. That depends on them. Remember that you are being helpful for you not to get something from others.

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Avoid trying to be the center of attention at all times. If you Constantly Take Control of the conversation and talk About yourself at all times, INSTEAD OF giving the floor to others, this is a disrespect and immaturity shows. Show a genuine interest in the experiences of others Concerns and can make you look more mature and less egocentric. Also You could learn something new or Develop a respect for someone based on what you've heard.

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Accept compliments and criticism With maturity. If someone pays you a compliment, just say "thank you ". If someone criticizes you, I am courteousand say something like "Okay, definitely think about it." Perhaps criticism is not valid, but will make you politely handle look mature at that time. [36]
·         Try not to take criticism as something personal. Occasionally, people may be trying to help, but may communicate inappropriately. If you think that is the case, ask for clarification: "I heard you said you did not like my essay. Could you be more specific so that next time I get better? "
·         Sometimes, the critics say much more about the people who make them than about you. If the criticism seems unfair or hurtful, remember that the other person may simply be trying to feel better by criticizing you harshly. Do not let it affect you.
·         Accepting criticism with kindness does not mean you can not defend yourself. If someone hurts your feelings, tell them in a calm and polite way: "I'm sure you did not say it with this intention, but when you criticized my attire, it hurt my feelings a lot. Next time, could you not comment on my appearance? "
Tips
·         Be kind and understanding, and have everyone consider you their friend! Do not be kind just for a day, but at all times.
·         Maturity is difficult to obtain. However, do not change your identity just to become more mature. Instead, try to be yourself and act in the best way. It is no longer about who is older and who, younger. If you want the people around you to take you seriously, think and take action on how you want to be heard, just make sure you stand firm and defend your position once you have acted. If something has gone wrong, do everything possible to stay calm and think about what you will do next, do not blame others, you adopted the measure and are responsible for it. Be mature and responsible.
·         When you face a conflict with other people, avoid discussing and try to resolve it in a calm and rational way. If it becomes a discussion, culminate it as quickly as possible.
·         Treat others as you would like them to treat you. Basically, this is the definition of maturity.
·         Write down your goals to reach maturity and plan how you will achieve them. For example, you can decide that you will start by staying silent , instead of talking about yourself all the time. Work on it for a week and then see how it went. Even if you do not do it perfect the first time, keep trying.
·         Shows benevolence. Even if someone does not deserve a second chance, give it to them.This will make you a better person and that you look mature.
·         Learn how you should look in different environments. Orange barbed hair can communicate your individuality, but if you have a job in a formal environment, your appearance could make people assume you are immature, even if this is not true.
·         It also tries to focus on the problems of others. This will make you look more mature.
·         Punctuality is a virtue!
·         Accept criticism seriously. If someone says that you behave like a child, sit down, relax and look for a way to be a better person. Do not bother about what the other person says, but rather consider it as a motivation to discover who you are.


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